She approaches the door of her dream home. She hesitates for a moment and inhales before the rattle of the key opens the door. Her mind contemplating on what type of mood is he in today. Her sunglasses and makeup doing its best to conceal the injuries from the day before. She enters the kitchen to see a bouquet of flowers. A guilt offering. “I Love You, Susan.” the salutation reads. Maybe he does love me in his sick twisted way, she ponders. She prepares dinner. But it the meal wasn’t to his satisfaction. She is greeted with another backhand slap. “You worthless woman…” he shouts. The abuse repeats again. When will it end? The kids cower in fear that they might be next. I can’t keep putting myself in this situation. This isn’t good for my kids. I have to Get Out. I’m dying inside, it feels like I’m drowning. Who can hear my cries for help? Who will believe this cookie cutter image of a family is just a facade.
Did you know that 1 in 4 women suffer in silence from domestic violence? Usually, 70% of domestic violence murders occur when the women decide to leave. Over 7 million children are affected as well. Or that over 500 women are raped every single day in the US alone. Children are also the victims of sexual abuse and 93% of them know the perpetrator. Yes, modern slavery does exist today and children as young as 4 years old are victims of the sex trade. Human tracking is a 150 billion dollar industry. The average slave cost $90. There are over 5.5 million children forced into slavery. These are horrendous facts that testify to the dark side of humanity. Evil prevails when Good men do stand aside and Do Nothing. We need to be aware of what is going on in our communities. It is imperative that we learn how to be our brother’s keeper again and not turn a blind eye when you suspect something is wrong. If you see something say something. It could be a matter of Life or Death. Now is the time to take a Stand and say Stop the Violence.
If someone confides in you that they need help to get away from their abuser; do not hesitate without a doubt to get them the help they desperately need. Some women are fortunate enough to have the funds, family support, and resources to venture out on their own and find refuge. Others are not so lucky and are solely dependent on their abusers for financial support. Once they make the decision to leave they simply have the clothes on their back and what they can stuff in a duffel bag. Often they have been alienated from family and friends and do not know how to contact them if they have been ostracized for years. So please have their backs and don’t take the fact they confided in you for granted. Help them get the support and resources they need no matter what. Take necessary precautions so that you don’t endanger your life as well. Be discrete and don’t break any normal daily routines. When the time is right to move have all the resources already in place. Have a sound plan as well as a contingency.
Starting over: How to rebuild your finances after escaping a financially abusive relationship
Women Safety Guide
There are much more organizations that are not listed on both local, State, and Federal level. Reach out to them and seek their guidance on how to have a safe and smooth transition from battered to Refuge.
Please leave your abuser before its too late. We stand together United against Domestic Violence. Till next time.